Thoughts On How To Get Over Someone

Why "thoughts" and not "advice" about how to get over someone? The truth of the matter is, getting over someone you've loved, or thought you've loved, or were just starting to fall in love with, isn't real easy to do.

It's also a very personal experience, and someone a thousand miles away, writing a cookbook recipe on a laptop, about how to get over someone, may have some useful advice to give, or just as easily may not. That's not to say that there's no sense in looking for help and doing a little research into what might help you. What you will find if you do that, are some pretty good ideas than can help you along. Some will work better than others, but you're not going to get over your feelings overnight no matter what course you take (don't even think about suicide!), and in a way it's better if you take some time tin dealing with the issue.

Some of the advice you'll find here is a little tongue in cheek. That's not intended to make light of things if you're truly grief stricken and devastated, so please take that into account. What may seem a little flippant is really designed to get you to think out of the box a little bit, and maybe try something that might help, that you otherwise wouldn't have thought of. There's the saying, "It's better to have loved and lost.....", and there's a bunch of wisdom in that. I've been through that myself to know something about the pain it can cause. Different people though experience different degrees of pain, and when I say "I've been there", that doesn't by any means indicate I know exactly how you feel. I don't. All I can offer is "thoughts" on how to get over someone.

Just Don't Go Off Half-Cocked - When I said "don't even think about suicide" all I meant was it isn't worth destroying your own life because of someone else, no matter what you thought about them. You are a child of God, and here on earth for a purpose, and you have work to do. The same goes for taking up drugs or alcohol as a means of trying to put something past you. That won't work, and will, somewhere between 95% and 99% (my estimates) of the time, just make things worse. Destroying yourself, even if only partially, makes little sense. Besides, there are lots of great people out there you might like to get acquainted with, but none of them particularly want to hear you crying in your beer.

A Test - One of the first things you are apt to encounter, is the feeling that you just can't get that someone out of your mind, no matter how hard you try. You may not even want to, but you feel that you must, so you try and fail. Take this test. Repeat the word "Apples" 5 times. Then tell yourself out loud that you are not going to allow "Apples" to enter your mind at all, until you've finished this article. You can think about anything else you want, but the word "Apples" must not enter your mind, or you fail the test. The odds are somewhere around 100% that you'll fail the test. Will you feel bad about that? You shouldn't. It is almost impossible to put something or someone out of your mind if you're trying to force yourself to do it.

Another Approach Not To Take - It used to be that if you were a guy, trying to figure out how to get over someone, the answer was to join the French Foreign Legion. That would certainly do it, probably for the first few exciting weeks anyhow. Later you'd be assigned to some dismal outpost with little to do except think about you know who, 5,000 miles away, and that person is probably not thinking about you at all. If you do things like that to yourself, the other person either won't care, or more than likely won't even know, and you aren't getting even with anybody or anything. Distancing yourself from something, which is what you really want to be working at, is much better than running from something.